No escape, we are social beings

Being social by nature, the homo sapiens is assigned to live, work, enjoy, fight for survival and build their own character through various aspects of social life.

It is estimated that 70% of a person's happiness and unhappiness comes through their interaction with other people. Psychology may be a complex science, but sociology is even more complex because its task is to harmonize the differences between human mentalities.

It is desirable to become acquainted with the basic “cells” of human society because they are an inseparable part of our life. These are marriage, family, community and society.

It is interesting to note that the simpler the form of our association, the more significant it is for us. For example, marriage is a consensual relationship between two people that can make them either happier or more miserable than all their other relationships combined…

Excuse me, but who elected them?

Crowds with foolishness is a great evil. - Euripides

…One of the great social "injustices" is that politicians, and not the people who elect them, are accused of all wrongdoing. According to the logic that “donkeys will always choose a donkey, and not a lion, to rule”, it is essential to educate a population on the real values of life, after which they will naturally select candidates to adequately represent them.

Although this kind of solution seems demanding and slow to implement, it is better to work on raising the awareness of population than to uselessly expect that something will change just by going to the polls.

It’s time to admit that we are suffering the consequences of our own stupidity, not someone else’s…

All that is valuable in human society depends upon the opportunity for development accorded the individual. - Albert Einstein

Six friendly exchanges

5) The fifth type of intimate exchange between friends is trust, which is for what friendship is generally valued.  Our degree of closeness with a person dictates to what extent we will be able to open our heart to them. As we said, some things are more appropriate to share and discuss with friends than within the family, even though we may love our family members more.

Relationships with friends are generally more relaxed because they do not have the same burden of attachment and expectations as a family relationship. Confiding between friends not only strengthens their relationship but has a healing effect. Best of all, you don't have to pay a friend like you would a psychologist to listen to you.

There is no need to point out that trust between friends is based on the ability to maintain confidentiality. Telling others what we were told in confidence is a sign of character weakness and something we should seriously work on if we want to have any friends.

There are few things that can hurt us as much as when we find out that something we told someone in confidence is being widely shared on social networks…

Familiarity is the root of the closest friendships, as well as the deepest hatreds. - Antoine Rivarol

Not too loose and not too tight

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.  - Khalil Gibran

…For this relationship to develop properly, it should contain the elements of a hierarchical and friendly relationship in addition to care as its most important part.

Hierarchical superiority of parents is necessary to properly guide and protect children, primarily from their own immaturity. No matter how intelligent a child is, they will not be able to make the right decisions in many life situations. It is not possible to carry out adequate education of children without parental authority because children's minds are particularly rebellious and “allergic” to discipline…

It's not what we think

…Developing friendships with our children gives us the opportunity to gain insight into their needs, desires and dissatisfactions, which they will be happy to reveal to us. Most of this we will notice if we have a close relationship with them. In any case, we will be surprised how different our children are from what we imagined them to be. A friendly approach allows us to enjoy an honest exchange instead of having utopian projections about our children which usually end in disappointment…

Find the right frame for your wedding photo

…Marriage is based on responsibility and not just on love, as young couples naively think. The key to a long and happy marriage is establishing tolerance limits, or to put it figuratively, delineating a framework within which both partners will be able to live happily while respecting mutual freedom and boundaries.

Setting boundaries in marriage is solely a matter of agreement between the partners. It is certainly not easy to find the right balance between approving and depriving the individual freedom that partners used to have before. These kinds of marital challenges can only be solved by honest dialogue…

LOVE

Love is much more than a bewitching emotion. It is the highest evolutionary stage that a sapiens can reach. There are many kinds of love (depending on who they are aimed at) but none of them are quick or easy to achieve.

The short-lived feeling of infatuation that strikes us like a thunderbolt out of the blue, shakes us up emotionally and disappears as quickly and suddenly as it had appeared is ignorantly called love, but has nothing to do with it. In our search for true love, we need to go through different developmental stages, each of which will inspire us to move forward.

Love isn't something natural. Rather it requires discipline, concentration, patience, faith, and the overcoming of narcissism. It isn't a feeling, it is a practice. - Eric Fromm